When asked what I thought about the image in this article I immediately thought of marriage. This image is extraordinary and an intense piece of art, while looking at it I got a glimpse of glory. I saw the covenant of marriage displayed in a beautiful yet strong artistic image. The husband covering and shielding his submitted wife is what I see and what I truly work to have in my own relationship with my spouse.
Marriage is not easy, but it is rewarding when you both have come into the knowledge of the truth as to who you are individually in Christ and what that looks like coupled. The coupled part is what I believe we think is the easy part of this equation because the Bible explicitly shares with us what we are to do. Beloved, unless you have a clear and divine understanding of who you are in Christ as an individual, you will never get the coupled aspect right. What I love about God’s word is that you can find the answers to life’s questions and find yourself. Just open it literally and figuratively with an opening of your heart and mind to what is written:
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body,of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
The word of God is beautiful and full of imagery. When I read this passage in Ephesians 5, I can see the image of that man washing his wife with the watering of the word. I can see the wife yielding her entire being to her husband for that washing. Honestly, my view has not always been spiritual, nor have I willingly desired to submit to anyone. I’ve been married twice, to the same man. This second time around makes the first time look like we were playing house and didn’t have a clue. With the help of the Holy Spirit, spiritual counselors, friends who kept us accountable, and a willingness to change I can honestly profess that every day my union with my spouse becomes more and more like God’s Holy Word. Everyday I wake up and see his face I get a glimpse of glory. Every morning when he grabs my hands and begins to pray for our day and for our children I get a glimpse of glory. Every morning when he arrives to work and sends me a scripture via email, I get a glimpse of glory. Every evening when he sends me a text message with a meme of a guy running saying “on my way home to you babe”, I get a glimpse of glory. Every time he walks into our home and greets me with a kiss and then kisses his daughter, I get a glimpse of glory. You know how it came to be? Through time and maturity.
Knowing who you are as an individual and staying true to that in Christ while yielding to the needs and desires of another is where the work begins. You can’t have an anointed marriage without being an anointed man and woman first. That my friend is going to take time and maturity. I will share with you something my wonderful pastor says quite often and it is the simple fact that, “God owns time”. So do not be discouraged by the statement that time and maturity are necessary to have a glimpse of glory multiple times a day in your life because God owns time. If a thousand years is but a day to God then surely your willingness to yield to the work of the Holy Spirit to develop and mature you in the things of the Lord won’t be years in the making. You determine how long this process of being perfected takes by your willingness to submit your ways unto the Lord, selling out completely and following after Him. Your willingness to know the Lord and be tested in what you have come to know determines level of maturity for your life.
When my husband and I divorced years ago, I threw myself into the spiritual realm. I was already saved and loving the Lord, but I wasn’t growing. I hadn’t grown much since I had gotten married. I was busy trying to figure out how to live with someone and still be me and have all the comforts of me. Now throw a couple of children into the mix and you have me trying to hold onto my identity as a strong independent woman while trying to be a wife and a mother. I failed miserably at it because I was doing it in my own knowledge and strength. I felt alone almost every day and when the marriage truly came undone, I refuse to come undone. I gave my entire being to worship and fellowship with the Lord. My life became all about Jesus because if no change on my part had been implemented, I would have died from a broken heart.
Prayer and studying of the word of God saved my life multiple times. I never envisioned being a single parent although I was for a great deal of my childhood the product of a single parent home. I knew how to do it practically, but I did not know what to do with my soul and spirit. I was working from the outside in, instead of from the inside out. The spirit of the Lord quickly revealed that to me and that’s when the real work began. Spending time with the Lord whether in prayer or reading the word or in fellowship with others, every minute that I had to give to the Lord…I gave it to Him. I’m getting a glimpse of glory just reminiscing. Every morning I’d wake up to the drawing in my spirit to be in communion with the Lord. I would get out of bed sometimes in the middle of the night and get on my knees to talk with Him. After getting the children dressed and ready for school, we’d grab hands and pray before leaving the home and weekly we’d have bible study so my children would learn at an early age to love and honor the Lord. Every week we’d have communion and my son would take the lead. Fasting was at least 3 times a week and during those times I’d spend my lunch hour at a weekday bible study just growing in the Lord and learning of Him. I truly died to myself and awakened to the newness of Jesus Christ. As I was growing in Christ my appetite for the spiritual was changing. Soon after I joined a new ministry and I have never looked back. The woman whose marriage fell apart and she almost fell apart with it has changed forever. The mentality I once had, I don’t even remember her anymore because He renewed my mind. Jesus changed me, awakened me, revived me, restored me, but most importantly He forgave me. He forgave me of trying to save myself instead of allowing Him to be my Savior. I decided to die to myself and that was the window opening in my heart for the Lord to take up full residence in me. He saved me and then rewarded me with another chance.
It’s rare to hear someone say they divorced their husband and then remarried him years later. That is my reality but it speaks nothing to the journey I had getting to this place where I am getting a glimpse of glory. I am so thankful to the Lord for all He has done in my life. It took a willingness to obey God’s word even when I didn’t see the reward of obeying. It took faith…great faith! It took a willingness to allow the Potter to reshape and mold this person of clay over again. The finished product has yet to be revealed, but I’ve got a glimpse of glory!
Happy Valentine’s Day!